Parent Teacher Interviews

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The last time I was in to speak with our counsellor he told me I should try telling people about Tripp when they ask about kids or family. I have posted a number of times about my struggles about what to say in these situations.

At parent teacher interviews on Thursday night I had 5 parents ask me specifically about Tripp. This time a year ago I was pregnant. It was only logical for them to ask about my baby. I usually prepare myself for these types of questions, but I hadn't considered that parents might ask me until the first one did.

I told them the truth. We had a son. He died.

All of the parents said how sorry they were to hear that. Every time an awkward moment emerged.

I honestly thought everyone knew. I certainly thought all my students from last year knew. I assumed they shared the news with their parents.

It made me wish they would have put it on the announcements in February. Mrs. Hamilton had a son and tragically he passed away. Please pass this on to everyone you know - including your parents. It will help to eliminate awkward moments in the future. Thank-you for your cooperation in this matter.


Telling Tripp's story 5 times was sad and exhausting, but thankfully I am 7.5 months into my grief. I didn't cry. I didn't crawl into a hole for the next 3 days. I woke up on Friday a bit weary, but ready to face another round of parents.

Regardless, I am glad parent teacher interviews are over for this semester.

Comments

  1. AnonymousOctober 18, 2011 at 7:32 AM

    Good for you, Jordan. You faced the situation, dealt with it, and came out on top, feeling stronger than in past situations. Keep on going, one day at a time. -Des

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  2. AnonymousOctober 18, 2011 at 12:11 PM

    So proud of you right now....

    love ader

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