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What ELSE can I do?

What would you do if your best friend died?

I think my initial reaction would be shock which would then be followed by a body heaving cry. I would head straight to my friend's house and cling to her family. I would be lost in emotion. It is my hope that at some point I would begin wondering, "what can I do?"  Once I got to that point I am fairly confident I would send Hugh to the store for supplies and head myself to the kitchen - because that's just what I do - I cook. I also hope that as I spent some time in the kitchen crying and cooking, I would start thinking "What ELSE can I do?"

A friend who lives on our crescent lost a dear friend. Her name was Audra-May Babcock and she left a husband and 2 sons ( 2 years-old and 4 years-old) to mourn her.

Some of Audra's friends did exactly what I hope I would do. They thought, "What ELSE can I do?" They put together a fundraiser on Saturday night to raise money for Audra's boys' education fund. Hugh and I went and are happy to report that they raised over $1500 for her boys.

Although I didn't know Audra, I can try to imagine what it would feel like to die before my time and leave behind all the people that I love. I think I could rest a little easier if I knew there were people out there - even strangers - who were in some small way going look out for my loved ones.

The last couple of days I have been thinking, "What ELSE can I do for Audra?" and Glennon over at Momastery came to mind. Glennon and her readers, whom she refers to as Monkees, have done numerous good deeds for families in need. You can get to the links of a few of there good deeds HERE. I figure, if they can do it, why can't we?

The answer to my question, "What ELSE can I do for Audra?" is this. I can share her tragedy with you and I can help raise funds for her legacy. Education is expense and her husband and children have been through enough.

There is a trust set up at TDCanadaTrust for Max and Mile's education fund. I am not sure if you can direct deposit, but I am looking into it. If you want to donate, feel free stop by the bank or email me the money I will take a lump sum down at the end of the week.

Audra's friends are also having a steak night fundraiser and are looking for donations to use for this event. You can email me about this as well and I can problem solve with you how to get the donation to them.

I know there is nothing I can do to ease the grief of those Audra left behind, but I do know from experience that they will feel the love of strangers and it will give them comfort. So many of you asked yourselves, "What ELSE can I do for Jordan, Hugh, and Calder?" It feels good to be able to do the same for Audra.


  1. So tragic:( I knew her, and she was indeed a vivacious and happy person. My heart breaks for those two boys without their mother.

  2. I hear you, Kelly. It is SO tragic.


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